Dating Your Best

Being away was so good!we made fires we sat in the hot tub and looked out at the nature preserve the house we’d rented was on. We drove underneath a small bridge and then trekked through the trees around it to reach a waterfall, where we hopped into the water and put our heads under the rapids. We went to a men looking few yard sales. We had cook-outs on the grill, made fires and roasted marshmallows, watched movies before bed. We listened to Sam Cooke.


Among the attendees was good ol’ Jake Stein. Those of you american dating who have been reading the blog from the get-go might recall that Jacky and I were best of friends for a year and then we tried to date each other for a while, which wasn’t such a great idea. Luckily, though, we were able to go back to being friends again afterwards.

Jaky is funny, whip smart and incredibly sweet. He’s a guy’s guy he loves to drink beer and watch soccer games to go to rock concerts and play pick-up football match making to attend bachelor parties and stay out late at parties. But he’s also a girl’s guy, in the sense that he has a lot of patience for talk about the vagaries of love and relationships; he’s a compassionate and careful listener, who’s also perfectly good at offering up good, juicy stories from his own life and he even likes to read the Weddings section of The New York Times.


I wish I could better describe Jake’s hilarity, for the london dating sake of your giggling enjoyment but for the moment, I hope it will suffice to say that once he gets me laughing, it’s often days before I stop.

Jake just got engaged to a wonderful person.The romance unfolded perfectly naturally: They hit it off right away, quickly became exclusive, and moved in together before a year had passed. The engagement adult personals came shortly afterwards and he seems so happy and contented with the relationship. Over the weekend, Jake was saying, “It’s always just so smooth and easy with her. We never fight.” I am confident that the two of them are the loves of each other’s lives.

When Jake and I were dating, on the other hand, things were not so easy. We didn’t really fight, but there was a lot of tension and maybe part of the pressure was my conviction that if things didn’t work out between us, it would be a sure sign that I was inherently unloveable …

Anyway, more about all this tomorrow when I’ll also discuss the related question of chemistry.